It’s My Life, Let Me Live It My Way

Sometimes, I sit and wonder—why can’t we get what we truly want? Why does it feel like everything we desire is always just out of reach? People around us talk about destiny, saying, “It wasn’t meant to be.” But what if it was? What if we were just never allowed to try?

We live in a world where our biggest battles are not just with circumstances—but with people. The same people who love us, care for us… but still, unknowingly, cage us. They say, “It’s for your future.” But what is a future without peace? What is a path without passion?

Why can’t we choose the life we want? Why do we let society's voice become louder than our own? When we say, “This is what I want,” someone always replies, “No, we know better.” They may be our parents, siblings, elders—but even they can't see into our hearts, they can't predict the outcome. No one can.

Only Allah knows the future. Only He writes destiny. So who gave people the right to stop us? To say, “You can't do this,” without giving us a chance to try?

They always say things like, "Hum bura thodi soch rahe hain," or "Humein pehle se hi dikh jata hai kya sahi hai," but let's be honest—no one really knows. Even they have made mistakes. So how can they be so sure about our lives?

We don't ask for control. We just ask for the right to choose. Guide us, support us, yes—but don’t pressure us. Don't decide for us.

Because we are the ones who will live with the consequences—good or bad. We’re the ones who know what brings us joy, peace, or purpose. You don’t. You never will.

And yes, we may fail. But failing after giving your 100% is still better than regretting never trying. If we don't try, we’ll be haunted forever by what ifs. And regrets—they hurt more than any failure.

If you want something—someone—you truly believe in, and both of you are willing, then don’t give up just because people are against it. Keep praying. Keep working. Be in that 1% of hope, that umeed in Allah. If it's written, it will come to you. And even if it doesn't, at least you’ll say, “I gave it my all.”

We’re not asking for rebellion. We’re asking for freedom. We’re not asking to be reckless. We’re asking for the chance to dream.

And if there’s one thing I’ve learned—it's this: silence and submission won't make you happy. But trying might. And that might is enough for me to keep going.

And if we talk about reality, the sad part is—this isn’t just one story. It’s the story of many. Every other person is silently screaming inside, struggling to hold on to what they believe in, while the world tries to convince them they’re wrong. Why? Just because they didn’t take the route others chose? Just because they had the courage to dream differently?

We grow up being told, “Follow your heart,” but when we actually do, society calls us rebellious, immature, or selfish. But no one tries to understand what that heart really wants. We’re made to feel guilty for dreaming, for loving someone, for choosing a path that doesn’t sit well with the “elders,” even if it's the path we know can bring us peace.

What’s worse is—when people give up under this pressure. When they silence their dreams just to fit in. That’s not growth. That’s slow self-destruction. And what are we left with? A life full of “what ifs” and silent tears we hide from the world.

But the truth is—we all deserve a life where we wake up with purpose, go to sleep in peace, and spend the in-between with people and passions that make our soul feel alive. This isn’t being selfish—it’s being human.

So to anyone reading this—don’t let the noise of the world turn off the voice inside you. Don’t let fear, or pressure, or even love that tries to control you, define your journey. You are allowed to choose. You are allowed to try. You are allowed to be happy. And if that means fighting for it—then fight.

Just remember, you’re not alone. Somewhere, someone is praying the same prayer. Somewhere, someone is holding onto that same 1% of hope. And somewhere, maybe not today—but someday, somehow—things will fall into place, exactly the way Allah planned it. Just don’t stop believing before that day arrives.

Last Note:

In life, you will always face distractions—people, moments, temptations that try to pull you away. But deep inside, you always know who your real person is. The one who brings you peace in chaos. The one you’d choose, again and again.
No matter how many times you get lost, come back. Choose them—every time. Because love isn't just about finding someone. It's about choosing them, over and over, even when the world tries to blur that choice.